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Four For Mums: Christmas Gift Guide

Posted on 23rd November 2018 at 6:39 pm.

Ding ding round 2!! If you missed round 1 of my Christmas gift guide (4 for the littlies) you can find it here.But this week… Read more

Not So Shabby

Posted on 15th February 2016 at 8:05 am.

20 years ago I got a dressing table for my birthday, it’s was in lovely 90s orange pine and all the rage back then. I… Read more

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Today marks a whole year since I announced my fift

Today marks a whole year since I announced my fifth pregnancy with a video of seven little strawberries (I’ve put the link in my bio)
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We were content back then that Pandora would be our last baby....
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Yet after I gave birth I wavered, no longer certain, but still resigned to thinking that time and money for six would stretch us too far.
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Than I began to grieve, my heart broken, i cried for days, clinging to baby clothes, taking in those newborn cuddles and ashamed at this seemingly selfish need...
And now finally, after months of heartache and talking, we have reached a resolution.....we have decided NOT to decide.
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Dealing in absolutes broke me, the feeling of emptiness came from a place of no choice. The moment we agreed to close the door but not dead bolt it, was the moment I felt able to breath. Suddenly that intense desire for baby six has disappeared, I can sort clothes... I can imagine a future with our beautiful five without the heavy burden of what, for certain, couldn’t be.
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Do I think baby six will happen? Let’s say maybe! Because maybes I can deal with, even if it’s probably a no 🤣
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Nothing melts your heart quite like dandelions fr

Nothing melts your heart quite like dandelions from your toddler
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Gully is going to be three in a week and I feel kinda like the virus has robbed us of our special time together, I’ve loved having his older siblings home but equally, it’s as though those final toddler days have been stollen.
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Next year he starts school, which is insane because I still see him as my baby boy.... I worry he might struggle being a summer baby with developmental delays but I’m so happy he now has his speech and language referral through,
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it’s probably time I saw him for his age more though. That little dimpled grin means he gets away with considerably more than his siblings...... the shock of his birth and the psychosis that followed have left me fiercely protective of our bond. Every night, when he snuggles close, I ask him, ‘Gully, do you rock our world?’.....I don’t know if he even understands but he answers yes, and it’s become part of our routine now, just as much as stories and extra cups or water.
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Those chubby little hands are starting to thin out and his chunky thighs are slowly shedding his baby rolls, it’s time to redefine the boundaries and let him blossom into the person he is to become.
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Did three seem like a big milestone for your little ones too?
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My Girls . I won’t lie, during each of my boy pr

My Girls
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I won’t lie, during each of my boy pregnancies I was scared of having another girl, not because I didn’t bond with Harriet but because I’ve grown so much as a parent in these 14 years.
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I carry a lot of guilt from my teenage pregnancy, The decisions I made which meant I wasn’t as present a parent as I can be now, for not considering her need for a stable family unit, for allowing others to override my parenting decisions, for returning to education and work, for staying in an abusive relationship longer than I should, for dating, for moving so much.... I could go on
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When I look at these two girls I feel pride, and a stab of sadness that Pandora will have the life my eldest deserved all those years ago. Having a girl was so wrapped up in fear and guilt that I struggled to see beyond my own failings as a 1st time mum, and a repeat of the dysfunctions of my own mother/daughter relationship
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Yet now here I am, mum to two girls, I see how irrational that anxiety was. I’m reminded how much both were wanted and cherished in the womb, that feeling of joy when they were born and gender was announced, knowing that deep down, despite the fear of teenage uncertainty, or mistakes of the past, secretly, they were what I had hoped for.....
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Both fill me with wonder and pride and excitement that the world can be theirs to conquer. But mainly, both invoke a deep primal instinct in me to be better, to change and to set a strong example of what it means to be a woman.
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#ad @cadburyicecream I scream you scream we all sc

#ad @cadburyicecream I scream you scream we all scream for ice cream
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I’m pretty sure there’s not a problem that can’t be solved without an ice cream.
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After a day of running around, theyre the ultimate summer treat and, when you have five children sometimes you just need those few mins of silence and a pick me up to bring everyone back together again
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Cadbury flake is prob our collective favourite ..... but I won’t say no to a tub of the double decker good stuff in front of a film after a day with the littles .
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